Sunday, June 8, 2008
RELATIONSHIP
One of the main aspect of human being which makes human life distinct from other species is relationships. Animal have no problem with relationships. They don't go for any counselling,neither tribal society have problem with relationships. More advance society faces the challenge of relationship.If a relationship is based on personal needs then it will not last longer.When need is fulfilled at emotional level,physical level then mind will look for something else from somewhere else. If the relationship is from level of sharing then it can last longer. If you know to row a boat then you can row any boat. If you don't know to row a boat then by changing the boat can not help, Changing the relationship does not solve the issue of relationship. Sooner or later you will be in the same situation in any relationship. We have to look some where else, deep with in us from where we start relating.What is our relationship towards us? Who are you to yourself? Do you know ? often we think "I am single,I am so bored being with my self.. So I need a companion,I need a relationship" .You are so bored by your own companion. How much boring you will be for someone else? Two people bored with themselves getting together, they boar each other.Love and boredom have something in common. What is it? Repetition. Go on repeating something then you get bored. Same thing is for love. You go on repeating " I love you..I love you". Say once that's enough. Some people write their lover name at trains,buses etc. Spiritual practice is also a repetition. Chanting a repeating same mantra. First it creates boredom and brings boredom in you. When you sustain boredom then spring of love gets open. When you realize that you are source of love and you are at giving end and not receiving end. Only and Only then your relationship can blossom.
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Very well put. Its ironic that most don't recognize that relationships are about relating to one another. The ego is usually the biggest barrier in a relationship. Most are so focused on themselves, what they want, wish for, what they need....if they could only realize that they already possess it, its not the other persons responsibility nor do they even carry the capability of giving any one person these things, emotions, feelings etc. As you put it, WE ARE THE SOURCE OF LOVE; we, in our own selves possess all things. If we could just get out of our own way, realize and own what is rightfully ours. To want, need or wish for is to create a lack there in. I do not need for love, I am love. I do not need for security, I am secure. I need not be told I am good, for I am on a metaphysical level; one with all good things...the sky, flowers, a painting, the color on a butterflies wing. When I feel empty, scared, needy, I focus on my surroundings, change them if needed, until I am once again filled with pure love. Easier said than done; but being in a romantic relationship before learning these things; is putting the cart before the horse; it just WON'T work. We must first learn to take responsibility for ourselves then others; before expecting others to be responsible for us. Learn the first, and there will be no need for the second.
Be together but don't ask for absolute togetherness. Avoid the
absolute; everything is relative. Be a little more free and your
relationship can go a long way, mm? Because if you are not creating
trouble for him and he is not creating trouble for you, then there is
nothing to disturb your relationship
WELL! TO BE VERY HONEST, THE WAY YOU LOOK IN YOUR SNAPS AT ORKUT, IT IS TOTALLY AN OPPOSITE AND UNEXPECTED PORTRAY OF YOUR PERSONALITY. IT SEEMS AS IF YOU HAVE SCRIBBLED OUT YOUR ENTIRE LIFE THRU WORDS.
KUDOS FOR THAT BECAUSE USUALLY ANYONE HARDLY TRIES TO BECOME SO SELF-EXPLANATORY.
MOREOVER IT WAS A NICE ARTICLE SO DON'T JUST DROP WRITING AND KEEP ON WRITING NEW STUFF ON YOUR BLOG.
IN MY OPINION:
LIVING YOUR WAY, THRU THE LIFE, IS ITSELF A RELATIONSHIP WITH LIFE.
SO TAKE MY ADVICE: "START ENJOYING YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH LIFE, REST ALL WILL AUTOMATICALLY FALL IN PLACE"
ENJOY....
JAGAT JOON
jagatjoon@blogspot.com
Hats off to you..Avikal!! you have wonderfully interpreted the vast meaning behind this word..Relationship!!this is the other side of you i suppose..But this is also true that how many of us understand or pretend not to..that how could relationship that had started out with love have ended with such hatred?..coz a relationship between two people is essentially an interplay of the mental, emotional and physical energies that each experiences.This establishes a connection which creates a feeling of self esteem, fulfillment and love.As you have said..writing name of lovers or saying again n again..i love you.. will not create miracles...we have to constantly work together to maintain the balance our relationships.This is how we can create miracles...so better late than if we all understand this and start working on it..!!Yes we all are the sources of LOVE..if only we understand it.
Cheers..
Sujatha
you have pen down ur felings about relationships beautifully, but, i think people who are jst single are not the only ones who are looking for a partner for a relationship. at times its the married ones too who are looking forward for some kind of a friend so that they can have someone to talk to, share their feelings.
beautiful explanaion of science of ralationship i have ever came across. i too was exploring the same questions during past few months. kudos to you. keep writing.
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